Listen to your heart, Mama - With Intuition to the Birth of your Dreams

Do you think that sounds trite or has this sentence only gained meaning for the first time since you are pregnant or a mom?

"Listen to your heart" or rather "Listen to your belly"?

We are untrained to follow our intuition. In our society of duties, tasks, time and competitive pressure, media, advertising, and all these very present influences, the voice inside us is getting quieter and quieter and then often it´s only perceived as a whisper.

But it is there and especially during pregnancy it usually gets louder and clearer.

Basically, it is important to understand that, like all living beings, we are very intuitive and instinctive. We always think that we are so different from other living beings, but basically, we live according to the same laws and natural rules. But due to the technical achievements of the last years and decades, we are moving away from our true nature... Bit by bit away from happiness?! I think that deserves an article of its own.

But let's just take the example of clinical obstetrics. With the help of technology, it is now possible for us to "supervise" a birth from the midwife base of the clinic. This means that midwives can "watch" the baby's heartbeat and the woman's labor activity (which is recorded via the CTG) on monitors while they have to deal with tons of paperwork. An art, a craft that was doomed to work through paperwork and multiple care in clinics instead of being with the expectant family. Technology is displacing one of the most intuitive professions in the world and is increasingly pushing itself into one of the most instinctive processes in life. And all this in the sense of “safety”?! Questionable, because of course a birth with uninterrupted birthkeeper care is far safer than supposed surveillance technology. Feeling contractions, sensing the woman giving birth and supporting her, talking to the baby gently, the opportunity for movement, water, and massage, chanting, eating and drinking, including the father, promoting the self-determination of the woman in a supportive atmosphere, which is fundamentally required for a safe birth.*

Because who knows best? A self-confident birthing woman, of course. And building that confidence in yourself and the baby is what wholesome prenatal and childbirth care should be. And of course beyond that, when the baby is here the real and most wonderful madness begins.

Unfortunately, today's obstetric medicine is very much designed to put risks and dangers in the foreground. And often very subtly. You hardly notice it. But even when measuring the baby, the point is to see whether this child could possibly get stuck in the "birth canal" (a terrible word for something so sacred). The obligatory diabetes test, inductions at term because of "too little" amniotic fluid or "too big child". Or quite banal, the negative reaction of a gynecologist when you put the word “home birth” in your mouth.

I will never forget the ridicule of one of the midwives at my training clinic when she gave birth to her child at home...and in the water too! "All the blood everywhere, such a mess...I think it's way too dangerous!" When obstetricians talk like that, how can a woman trust herself? When the birth team doesn't really trust you to give birth on your own and without intervention.

Of course, I show extremes here, but these are my own experiences and nothing is pulled out of thin air. And of course, I also know that there are masses of obstetricians out there who (want to) prioritize and protect the self-determination and mental and physical integrity of the families.

And how do you find yourself in all of this? Where is your place?

So now it's a matter of really perceiving your inner voice and interpreting it correctly - this wonderful intuition that is really always there, always sending signs and giving hints.

In this way, it can be possible to find out during pregnancy what you want and how you want to give birth and live as a mother. It's not crazy to feel that a free birth would be right for you. Please read my article about free birth and unassisted birth here:

https://www.yourmidwifehour.com/post/unassisted-birth-free-birth-a-new-trend-and-why-as-a-midwife-i-support-it-very-much

Or maybe you really need pediatricians and specialists around you and in retrospect, it turns out to be the absolutely right decision for you and your child. Your inner voice will guide you, and how often have I heard that pregnant women felt that something was wrong and that obstetricians might even appease it, but then the woman went to the clinic on her own and thus saved her child from worse? Intuition, and instinct - these innate abilities are particularly strong when the mother awakens within us.

Birth is very instinctive and during an undisturbed birth very old brain areas are active, the so-called “reptilian brain”. This has nothing to do with rationality, only with pure instinct. This can be a bit irritating at first because our mind literally stops working. When I gave birth, there wasn't much left of the midwife Isabel. And it was fine like that. ;-) The birth was completely instinctive and intuitive, guided by my body and my son, who showed exactly where to go, literally.

And to look after such births as a midwife is of course wonderful. Everything seems to be in flux and in harmony.

How do we hear this inner voice now? Is it a feeling, a thought, a physical sensation, a compulsion to do something, a very strong thought that won't let you go, a Deja Vu? It can have many faces.

In many cases, when the connection to your baby is strong, you can also see clear signs of the little creature in your womb.

Please read my article “Your baby is the real birthkeeper” in which I describe how my son Laya sent very clear signs of where and how he wanted to be born and that I could trust him that everything would just be fine.

https://www.yourmidwifehour.com/post/your-baby-is-the-real-birthkeeper

How do you feel now? Do you need some “fine-tuning”? Would it be good if you could perceive your intuition better?

Are you standing between the chairs right now? Does your doctor want this and you want that? Do you want this and your partner wants something different?

Have you already had a birth where you intuitively thought it could have gone differently?

Then I can possibly support you in working on this “fine-tuning”.

I would be very happy about it. I offer the supportive coaching “Listen to your heart, Mama” which is about trusting yourself (again), listening to your baby and your gut feeling, and really “being of good hope” like it used to be so beautifully said.

With different and very individual modalities I will accompany you on your way to a self-confident and intuitive motherhood in one or more online sessions. Take a look here to see which support offer might suit you best:

https://www.yourmidwifehour.com/avenues-of-support-offerings

Or simply book a free introductory call at yourmidwifehour@gmail.com and learn more about my offers and me.

I'm looking forward meeting you soon!

*We are talking about healthy and physiological births - the absolute majority.